Marriage Counselling Perth
Marriage is one of the single biggest commitments that you will make in your life. Some marriages in Western Australia hit a crisis that requires an independent set of qualified eyes to assess and resolve differences. When people begin relationships, they embark as a couple on a journey that may at some point struggle with issues or specific a relationship problem.
It true, no one likes to be unhappy in a relationship, that’s why at Energetics Institute we offer the people of Perth and wider Western Australia, marriage & couples therapy / counselling services to help married couples resolve issues so they can be happier in their marriage together. The main goal of couples therapy is to explore you and your partners mental health so you can understand each other better in relation to needs and desires within the relationship. We additionally offer this service world wide through digital video and audio counselling.
When choosing a marriage counsellor, it is important to choose someone whom has not just clinical experience but whom has achieved success in what they now counsel you for. Richard and Helena Boyd are both psychotherapists, and the owners of the Energetics Institute in Perth and a married couple who have been together for over 20 years.
We have steadily worked through our own issues both individually and together as a couple. We are well equipped to assist others as we have worked through our own marriage issues and used the tools and ideas that we now share with our clients.
We know that to maintain a healthy married or defacto relationship over time, involves an investment of love, trust, commitment and perseverance. A lifelong commitment to a relationship is hard work but worthwhile and takes a mindset and skillset that we do not naturally all possess to make a marriage or defacto relationship work.
Either Richard or Helena is available to see you for couples counselling. if your in couples counselling and your struggling in your relationship, we encourage you to either attend our counselling centre or have a skype session.
How can you tell if your Marriage is in trouble and you need to seek help?
Marriages show signs and symptoms of an underlying problem or crisis that is emerging or is being denied by one or both partners when:
- One or both start blaming the other more or less constantly
- Neither listens to the other
- A face-to-face or digital affair occurs
- Unresolved conflict and erupts again from time to time
- You co-exist and you both have given up
- Avoidances and silences are increasing
- Passive aggressive anger ( in extreme cases we may suggest 1on1 anger management)
- Both parties are leading separate lives
- There is no sex or use of pornography has replaced sex
- You triangulate the marriage by putting energy into children, hobbies, TV etc.
- Your partner no longer excites you and you fantasize about others
- There are power struggles or control issues between the couple
- One or both partners are a Caretaker or Narcissistic
- Coping with blended families or children who have issues or disability
How Can Our Marriage Counsellors Help
Marriage and Relationship counselling is designed so that we can be counselling an individual or do Marriage counselling as the service offered. As a marriage counsellor in Perth we not only deal with mental health issues and relationship difficulties, but also deal with the dynamics and issues between couples.
Our counsellors are able to work with married or defacto couples about the presenting issues. This allows couples to get a deeper understanding of issues or dynamics that might be at play in the marriage.
Understanding can often avert or resolve the crisis, and prevent the pain of separation or divorce. In marriages each person may have their own unresolved feelings. This is likely to have a dramatic effect in the relationship as miscommunication and arguments can occur when one partner doesn’t understand others actions.
If you consider that the trauma of relationship breakdown may expose you to the loss of mental and physical health, a significant share of your assets, possibly some restriction on access to your children, loss of quality of lifestyle, and expensive legal fees in an adversarial setting, then the cost benefit of spending some time and money on improving your relationship, or dealing with a crisis as a couple, is money well spent.
The Australian divorce statistics make for sober reading that nearly 1 in 2 committed defacto or married couples will separate in the first 20 years. Research also shows that couples who enter marriage or relationship counselling are more likely to save their relationship or marriage where there has not been a major violation of trust or values in their conduct as people.
We are also able to help couples face the reality of a dying relationship when that is in fact the reality of their marriage, and assist in a healthy separation process, and personal grieving that ending the relationship may trigger.
Sometimes the truth of a marriage or relationship is that is has been damaged by the behaviours or dynamics that occurred within that union. When the trauma or injury to a person or the trust within a relationship is significant, it may be beyond one of the person’s ability to forgive and move on.
When that occurs, it is far better that the couple work through the separation process with dignity and rational composure such that the separation can be less traumatic and emotionally charged than if the breakdown was handled alone by the emotionally affected couple.
Having a session with one of our Marriage Counsellors has the following benefits
Our therapy that is based in Perth, Western Australia teaches married people skills that are specific towards their situation, this works around sustaining intimacy and love between couples, so that there is true equality, vulnerability, deeper intimacy and mutual growth. Some benefits of our Perth Relationship Counselling include the following:
- Develop stronger effective communication
- Learns tools and ways of reducing conflict and expressing anger in a healthy way
- Increase individual confidence and self-esteem
- Learn how to safely express and be authentic
- Learn skills and approaches to strengthen areas in your relationship
- Develop a more nurturing and fulfilling relationship
- Create the basis to avoid unnecessary separation or divorce where major disruption, trauma, cost and asset loss may occur
- Create the basis to take the relationship or marriage to a new level not previously experienced
Couples Counselling at Energetics Institute
Couples will find that love goes through many stages and these are especially apparent in a marriage. Our Marriage Counselling sessions based in Perth, recognise that this and starts by assessing where your relationship is at, and why, and what relationship problems each individual is carrying within the relationship.
Mature love is built on trust of each other and permits both partners the freedom to pursue their friends and individual interests without conditions. Our counsellors assess the levels of trust, intimacy, communication, and how love and commitment is expressed in your relationship.
There are numerous types of couples, and varied personality and identity types involved in marriages, and each is an authentic expression of self and belief that is accommodated with within a relationship.
Couples may have a prior history in their relationships and may have had prior patterns of behaviour that might be contributing to issues between each other. Issues like anger, addictions, poor boundaries or unrealistic expectations are examples of some patterns that can affect marriage.
Individuals may have grown up to have poor relationships and intimacy mirrored and modelled to them by their parents, or were taught unhealthy beliefs and values about couples, men, women, sex, money, marriage, conflict or intimacy. They may not understand how these will shape behaviours and relationship dynamics that sustain or sabotage marriages.
External issues such as demanding jobs and careers, FIFO shift work lifestyles, interfering or conflict driven in-laws and religious communities can also be a dynamic to be addressed in marriage t counselling.
As a couple, you can effectively explore and express current challenges that exist in your relationship. Our counselling we explore issues that exist to establish if it’s part of a pattern that exists in other relationships or resemble dynamics from your childhood.
Our Perth counsellors encourage the appropriate expression of your hurt feelings, resentments and anger. We bring your relationship into truth through honest expression of thoughts, feelings, emotions and fantasies you may hold.
In counselling you can learn how to take responsibility for any negative feelings within yourself. These may be projected onto your partner through blaming, shaming and manipulation. Any contributing personality factors contributors to the failing marriage are addressed and handled. These may include trauma, abuse, narcissism, criminal behaviour, affairs and addictions.
As social creatures we are by nature naturally attuned towards creating relationships and building families, tribes and communities. The growth you will experience in working on yourself in marriage and relationship therapy and counselling will typically also pay dividends in terms of enhancing other key relationships in your life.
It is our experience that people who have trouble in their primary interactions with partners, family and their children, also encounter relationship and communication issues with work colleagues, social club fellow members, and within their friendship circles.
When a client sorts out the dynamics and behaviours that compromise their marriage they will find that their secondary relationships at work and in the community also improve. This is another compelling reason why getting marriage therapy can improve your whole life situation.
In fact, work places now seek staff who have a high level of what is called Emotional Quotient (EQ). As adults we can increase our EQ through self-development and counselling, through this we learn improved communication and listening skills, better boundaries, conflict resolution skills, appropriate interaction gestures, etiquette and respectful relating.
As we uncover and retire old prejudices, beliefs, norms and values which are not supported by the community then we can interact respectfully and harmoniously with a wider workplace and community peer group.
The couples counselling Perth experts at Energetics Institute offer people from all backgrounds a counselling experience designed to enhance and evolve your relationship. The benefits are many and varied and are a positive investment in yourself.
Do you want to lean about sex therapy? for more information about sex therapy for you and your partner please see some of our articles on sex therapy here.
Click this link if you want to get some more information about help in your relationship.
Not Quite married? Click this link if you want to get some more information about Pre Marriage Counselling
For additional advice and information regarding Relationship Counselling in Perth, check out our Relationship Counselling page.
Want more info on couples counselling? Find out the differences between Mature Love and Romantic Love in our Couples Counselling page.
Thinking of getting divorced? maybe you need to find out more about your relationship through Divorce Counselling.