Grief and Loss Explained
Grief reactions are a natural emotion centred on feelings generated by loss. These feelings are normally felt by everyone in their lives at some point. This is usually a permanent loss, such as the loss of a special person. When we begin to mourn a loss, we are often overcome by feelings of profound sadness and bereavement that we were not ready for and are less equipped to deal with. If you have just lost a loved one and are feeling this way, our grief counselling services can help you work through your emotional turmoil, so you can move forward with everyday life adjusted to your new situation. People experiencing grief can get help with the correct support such as a grief counsellor.
How we help with Grief
Society fears death and ageing and has a stigma around failure, loss, or being vulnerable. Grieving is often something that can make others around you uncomfortable. Bereavement Counselling is a specialised type of counselling that can support you if you feel overwhelmed by grief.
Our therapists at Energetics Institute are grief counselling professionals in Perth who offer you a safe and compassionate space to explore all the aspects of your grief. You can discuss and emotionally express grief without judgement or shame. We can assist you in learning about grief and its role in your life and how to process your grief in a healthy and positive way.
Why You May Need Grief Counselling
Grief is a normal emotional reaction that every person will feel at some point in their life, usually more than once. In most cases dealing with this difficult time, will be well within your abilities as you get help from your friends and family and other support networks. In some cases, however, this may not be enough and you may need the assistance of a qualified Grief Counsellor to help find a way through.
How do you know if the Grief Has Become Too Unbearable to Handle?
When you are grieving, it can be hard to make sense of it when you are alone. This could be because you are unable to get assistance from your support systems as you feel like they simply don’t understand the situation. It also could be that you had a complex relationship or fight with the deceased person before they passed away.
People who are very busy, find grief the hardest to deal with as they don’t take the time to process it. Busy people will act as if nothing has happened and eventually the stress of the event will give them grief-related symptoms. The best way to describe this is by using the term “masked grief”.
Masked grief or delayed grief can be debilitating as a person can just wake up with the symptoms all of a sudden, not knowing the root cause and are normally much worse than if the grief was dealt with effectively at the time of the event.
What Are the Common Signs of Grief
The common symptoms that people experiencing grief go through are:
- Denial that your loss occurred
- Temporary acceptance of your loss before collapsing again
- Withdrawal and isolation from social settings
- Bargaining over what happened
- Anger outbursts then tears
- Helplessness about your future
- Sleep loss
- Loss of appetite and interest in the world
- Avoidance of grief through addictions, obsessions, workaholism
- Thoughts of suicide
The Stages Of Grief
It’s very difficult to put a time limit on grief as everyone experiences it differently, some people appear to get over their grief quickly whereas it may take longer for others to adjust. If the trauma occurred more than six months ago and you still have ongoing symptoms that are not subsiding or getting less painful, this is a huge indicator that you should seek help from a Grief Counsellor.
The Stages of Grief are:
- Shock and numbing
- Denial and guilt
- Anger and blame
- Depression and helplessness or overwhelm
- Acceptance and mourning the loss
- Completion and moving on
Grief Unrelated to Death
There are other times in life that we will experience grief that is not associated with losing a loved one or a death. There are many other reasons that we may experience grief and require grief counselling including the loss of a possession that we are emotionally attached to, the loss of a person who is still alive (loss of a relationship), the loss of a pet, or the breakdown of the family dynamic.
In some cases, you may have a person in your life who has gone through an emotional change from drugs or alcohol. This person could become abusive or violent in nature, so you may have had to cut them out of your life quickly. These are just some of the examples that exist or could occur to trigger a grief-related emotional response to build up. These feelings of grief are no less real than death-related grief. This may also require help from a grief counselling specialist to resolve the complicated emotions.
Grief therapy creates a safe environment for effective healing to occur. For more information on our counselling sessions contact one of our mental health professionals today on 0414 897024 or if you would like to make an appointment, reach out to us here.