Couples Counselling Perth
If you are in a relationship and you find you are undergoing difficulties and conflict with your partner, you may want to consider our counselling services. At our counselling centre our couples therapist will help you create an inspiring relationship that has meaning, love, commitment, passion and growth. The couples counsellor can also assist with situations which may place stress on your relationship.
Some stressors may be the arrival of a new baby, or difficulties related to in-laws, step, blended or cross cultural families. You may find that the original love, sexuality and eros may be gone from your relationship. Over the years, you may have grown apart from your partner which may lead you both to separation. Maybe you have underlying resentment, or don’t trust your partner because of affairs or infidelity.
When you are in relationship each of us has our own issues to consider, which can mean each of your own unresolved hurts, distortions and fears play out over time. You may communicate with your partner in a defensive or aggressive fashion, which eventually may lead to relationship breakdown.
Difference Between Romantic Love and Mature Love
When you meet and “fall in love” with your partner, you enter into “the honeymoon period“. This early stage of love can last varying amount of times, at maximum it can last 2 years. This is the early stage of love where you and your partner experienced when dating. This stage is a good foundation for love as a couple share a genuine intimacy with each other. You were both originally romantically attracted to each other and then made a commitment to each other.
If you really love each other, you will want the best and will allow each other to develop your individual strengths. You will trust and respect your partner and have a strong commitment towards keeping your relationship stable and secure.
A couple who have a mature approach to love, trust and accept each other without condition. They allow each other to have their own friends and follow their individual hobbies or interests. This type of mature love enables you both to come closer together and follow your unique passions.
Each partner’s differences test the other’s capacity for acceptance, tolerance, forgiveness and compassion. When necessary, you discuss your imperfections in a loving, non-judgmental fashion.
What’s Involved in Our Couples Counselling Services
Our primary objectives in Couples Counselling are to help you with the following:
- prevent relationship struggles
- recover from infidelity or cheating
- deal with sexual problems
- recapture the eros and love
- help you to figure out if you should stay together or separate
Our Couples Counselling in Perth enables clear communication as there is a safe space, facilitated by the couples therapist. We place a great importance in nurturing the professional counselling relationship between the therapist and the couple. Each of you has the ability to express what you would like in your relationship and explore current difficulties you are having with each other. You may discover that you carried forward some of the issues from your individual past histories into your relationship. You can only change the unhealthy dynamics causing problems in your relationship if you see how they were formed from your family of origin.
Counselling Individuals During Relationship Counselling – what you need to know
Our Individual Therapy can provide clarity in exploring each of your family dynamics and reveal how tendencies and patterns from your history can manifest in your present relationship.
Note – We have seen an escalation in the number of couples coming to see us since the outbreak of Covid 19.
Please feel free to seek help and make an appointment with us about Individual Counselling on issues not relating to Couples Counselling such as self esteem etc. as we would be happy to help.
Reactions in Our Relationships
Defensive reactions such as blaming and withholding are generally the most common relationship responses to conflicts. These can prevent you from experiencing happiness, passion, deep love, healing, bonding and equality. The dance of anger, resentment and blame are the most common self defeating patterns used by most couples and our counselling can help resolve these issues.
Our Couples Counselling in Perth Western Australia, enables you to appropriately express hurt feelings. When you each access the underlying feelings behind your reactions, you understand where your partner’s behaviour is coming from. Then each of you is more accountable for any negative feelings you may be experiencing.