Having a great relationship is the dream of every couple but unfortunately, there are many reasons that couples experience problems. If you are in a relationship and you find you are experiencing difficulties or conflict with your partner you may want to get some help from the professional team at the Energetics Institute. Since 2005, our experienced and trained couples and marriage counselling team have helped hundreds of clients to develop and maintain healthy relationships in Perth, Western Australia.
Marriage and Relationship Counselling
Our specialist team address mental health issues using a body-mind psychotherapy approach. At the Energetics Institute, our relationship counselling services provides information and education to couples so they can have a more fulfilling relationship. If you are experiencing relationship issues or a relationship breakdown, our therapists will work with you to address your individual issues such as betrayal and hurt, reconnection or intimacy, communication or any other ongoing long-term problems you may be experiencing within your relationship. Through our sessions, the goal is to show you what is healthy and what is not, teach new skills, beliefs and actions that transform relationships to vibrancy, happiness, and sustainability. If you are currently thinking about separation, we can assist and guide you through the emotional minefield that divorce is, even if there are children involved.
Benefits of Relationship, Marriage & Couples Therapy in Perth
- Educate yourself with strategies to improve your communication
- Communicate your needs clearly without anger and resentment (anger management techniques)
- Learn the process of working through unresolved issues
- Discuss sexual issues and resolve them with sex therapy techniques
- Develop a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner
- Address issues around managing differences and conflicts
- Get greater emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship
- Obtain increased awareness of your feelings and behaviours
- Reinvigorate emotional connection and strengthen bonds
- Re-establish commitments and resolve relationship problems
- Resolve low self-esteem issues
- Learn skills and approaches to strengthen areas in your relationship
Difference Between Romantic Love and Mature Love
When you meet and “fall in love” with your partner, you enter into “the honeymoon period“. This early stage of love can last a varying amount of time, typically it lasts a maximum of 2 years. This formative stage is what you and your partner experienced when you were initially dating, which solidified a good foundation for love as shared genuine intimacy. You were both originally romantically attracted to each other and because of this, you decided to commit to each other long term.
If you really love each other, you will want the best and will allow each other to develop your individual strengths. You will trust and respect your partner and have a strong commitment to keeping your relationship stable and secure.
Couples who have a mature approach to love, trust and accept each other without condition. This allows each other to have their own friends and follow their individual hobbies or interests. This type of mature love enables you both to come closer together and follow your unique passions. This is one of our primary objectives for couples who commit to relationship counselling at the Energetics Institute.
What Our Relationship Interventions and Counselling Involve
Typically, we will work with both people during a session. However, individual counselling sessions are sometimes recommended to uncover individual issues and explore the implications to determine the impact they have on your relationship. Most people find that after being involved in couples therapy that they learn how to communicate effectively so they can resolve any relationship problems and get back to having a fulfilling relationship that is enjoyable.
We often find one or both of you are unaware that you unconsciously project unresolved childhood issues onto your partner. Likewise, you may fall or regress into a child to parent dynamic where you “make” your partner your parent and make infantile demands to meet needs and wants that as adults you should attend to yourself. We analyse and make you conscious of these dynamics, and work to resolve them. During couples therapy, we have each person express non-judgementally if they can receive the other person with acceptance, tolerance, forgiveness and compassion.
Some stressors may be the arrival of a new baby, or difficulties related to in-laws, step, blended or cross-cultural families. You may find that the original love, sexuality and eros may be gone from your relationship. Over the years, you may have grown apart from your partner which may lead you both to separation. Maybe you have underlying resentment, or don’t trust your partner because of affairs or infidelity.
When you are in a relationship, you have your own individual issues to consider, which can mean each of your own unresolved hurts, distortions and fears play out over time. You may communicate with your partner in a defensive or aggressive fashion, which eventually may lead to a relationship breakdown.
Building Healthy Couples. Relationships and Marriages Through Counselling
It is important to note that a relationship is ever-evolving and changes over time. Through experience, each partner grows and evolves, which not only brings new experiences but new thoughts and challenges to the relationship.
Conflict is common and can occur for many reasons such as sexual habits, money problems, parenting issues, lack of affection and infidelity. Issues such as these can lead to emotions such as disconnection, unappreciation, anger and resentment. Relationships need to be worked on and continually nurtured and valued. Our team of relationship professionals are trained to give advice and support to those seeking marriage or relationship counselling.
For more information, contact one of our mental health professionals today on 0414 897024 or if you would like to book an appointment today by reaching out to us here. Due to Covid-19 we also offer video counselling. For more information please see our skype counselling page.